The remembrance of someone special in your life is something that takes a lot of commitment, on your part, and also massive amounts of support from your fellow family members.
The death of someone important in your life can be a very traumatic event. Death is another passage of life and can come at any moment. The remembrance of that person can even leave you reminiscing and feeling as though they never did pass away. The death of a loved one can be greatly time consuming and heart wrenching. The individual who gives the eulogy, should be one that can convey the amount of perseverance that individual had, when the death occurred. The eulogy should also incite emotions in people, so they too can share in the remembrance of that person as a positive thought and resemblance of their thoughts of the deceased. Some people will want to give their own personal eulogy so, condolences should be kept at a sufficient time frame. Condolences are a must but not the center of the event.
When it comes time for the burial, family members and friends will want to pay their condolences and give thanks to the fact that they knew the family member that has passed on.
Watching people give condolences at the burial can be very unexpectedly more emotional than the death itself. You should have people available to help the attendees to give their condolences, because this time could be a extremely passionate part in the remembrance of the person who has passed. The burial should be something that all people, who were in that person's life, be involved in. The burial of the loved one should be a cherishing memory that all, whether family or friends, can walk away from with a positive attitude and a warm heart. A burial is not something that you want to go through but it is something that is essential in every single individuals life and death. Whether support and gratitude is given will make the difference of remembrance and closure and if it can be accepted. When all else fails, make sure that you have everything in order that is associated with the death, remembrance of the individual, the burial and the condolences that will be given.
Death – An inevitable truth
Life is a really funny, mysterious, enigmatic and unpredictable in so many ways. While we are blessed to be born as humans, we have to remember that our stay on this earth can never be permanent and one day all of us have to make our exit. But, the thought of death and the subsequent burial and also the fear associated with death and burial should not come in the way of our normal living and the good things that we intend to do during our life time. We would have had fond remembrance of a certain person we had been close to, but suddenly the unexpected death of the same person serves a blow to us. It is then time to offer our condolences to the bereaved family as a sign of remembrance while we ourselves are finding it difficult to come to terms with it. But then, condolences have become order of the day when a person meets with death. Then the usual rituals follow like mourning, burial etc. which are heart rending to witness, to say the least and condolences do not come easily when you are sad and the remembrance of the past haunts you.
It may be very easy to offer condolences but it is the bereaved family that knows painful and difficult it can get after the death of a loved one in the family, more so when the person leaves behind good remembrance.
If death and burial and subsequent condolences could erase the fond remembrance we have of the departed soul, then history would not have been testimony to the lives of so many great souls and we would not have been in a position to recall their stories with fond remembrance and reverence. It would always be advisable to have a philosophical approach to life while carrying out our daily activities so that we are in a position to welcome death followed by burial too with equanimity and do not become unnecessarily even when death does not come calling us. Though we do not when the bell tolls for whom, but there are some very balanced ones who even go to the extent of making their preferences known about coffin and ceremonial burial well before their death! In such cases, you may see the bereaved family becoming busy in carrying out the wishes of the person regarding death and burial instead of mourning and accepting condolences. People who go to offer condolences may lend a helping hand in the burial formalities as they have nice remembrance of the person who has met with sudden death.